Our children react to what they see on the news as well as how they see us react to sudden unemployment, sickness, and the loss of life that COVID-19 threatens.
During this time, it is important to remember the influence that social and emotional factors have on your family’s overall wellbeing. Without these needs being met, it will be difficult to keep your student learning.
The following article provides parents with an overview of the process known as “social emotional learning,” offering a basic definition and strategies for supporting students’ social and emotional needs during a disruptive event such as this one.
Defining “social emotional learning”
Social emotional learning (SEL) is broadly understood as a process through which people build awareness and skills in managing emotions, setting goals, establishing relationships, and making responsible decisions that support success in school and in life.
SEL develops social skills, such as self-awareness, self-management, and social awareness. Developing such competencies fosters positive social skills, reduces conduct problems, diminishes emotional stress, and improves academic performance.
Furthermore, when we develop social and emotional competencies, our ability to form relationships and build social awareness increases, enhancing our ability to connect with individuals of diverse perspectives, cultures, languages, histories, identities, and abilities.
Michigan identifies five social and emotional competencies that represent a variety of social and emotional skills. The five competencies, introduced below, will be explored in greater depth throughout this blog series:
- Self-awareness: The ability to accurately recognize one’s emotions and thoughts and their influence on behavior.
- Self-management: The ability to regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations.
- Social awareness: The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others from diverse backgrounds and cultures, to understand social and ethical norms for behavior, and to recognize family, school, and community resources and supports.
- Relationship skills: The ability to establish and maintain healthy and rewarding relationships with diverse individuals and groups.
- Responsible decision making: The ability to make constructive and respectful choices about personal behavior and social interactions based on consideration of ethical standards, safety concerns, social norms, the realistic evaluation of consequences of various actions, and the well-being of self and others.
The following video from the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) provides more detail on the SEL competencies and their relevance for parents.
How can I support my child’s social emotional learning right now?
Now that you have an overview of the social emotional learning process and competencies, what can you do to support your child’s SEL needs at this time?
Here are a few ideas to get started:
Allow time to talk about feelings with your child
In these uncertain times, children can feel a variety of emotions. It is important to allow space for conversations about their feelings to take place.
This can be especially difficult if parents and children are adapting to considerably different schedules. However, you don’t have to have a formal sit-down discussion to accomplish this, and it shouldn’t feel forced.
It might be something as simple as a quick check-in, a chat while making dinner together, or while cuddling on the couch.
Sometimes children will talk or act out their feelings during playtime. Pay attention and allow for these outlets in healthy ways. Acknowledge their feelings, validate them and offer support.
Model healthy coping behaviors
When life feels out of control, it is easy to default to unhealthy habits.
We want to find things that we can control. It’s important to remember children look to adults as role models.
Try to find healthy outlets for potential stress that could be experienced during this time.
For example, you could:
- Take time to get outside. Nature can be soothing, take a walk or play in the yard.
- Make healthy snack choices.
- Unplug from devices at different intervals and enjoy creative play.
- Ensure everyone is getting good rest.
These are small ways to make sure you and your family stay healthy. In addition, here are some helpful resources for managing anxiety and stress from the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention.
Encourage responsible decision-making.
Times where everyone is at home provide wonderful opportunities to help your child develop important SEL skills.
For example, you could:
- Allow your children to begin to make decisions about when they will do assigned classwork or expected chores.
- Help your child think about potential outcomes based on the decisions they make.
- Walk them through how to weigh choices about ways to spend their time, how to prioritize tasks, and how to think through potential consequences.
These are especially important skills to have in the future and can be helpful in times where schedules may be in flux.
Finally, keep in mind that social and emotional skills are refined over a lifetime. Take small steps in supporting your child during this particularly difficult time, and give yourself and child grace as you try it out in your home.
This post contains an excerpt from the Social Emotional Learning for Educators series in the Michigan Virtual Professional Learning Portal. Educators can enroll in these courses, provided by the Michigan Department of Education, at no cost.
Parenting in a Pandemic (Blog Series)
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